Where Tiwa Got it Wrong… Was when she believed she was the one.
There you go.
I’ve said it.
Before you judge me for judging a woman for a man’s mischief, I implore you to read on.
By now so much has been said about the explosive social media storm Tee
Billz’s posts online stirred that many may think there is nothing new
under the sky to say about the erstwhile couple.
Many think pieces have run up countless column inches in the Nigerian
papers and online – on anything from Tee Billz’s alleged depression and
suicide attempt to his financial troubles, from Tiwa’s epic fail of an
interview following the news of the breakdown of their marriage to Tee
Billz’s epic failure as a husband.
Perhaps one fault that we all failed to pick, amongst Tiwa’s many
other faults we ripped apart over the last two weeks, is where she had
it all wrong – when she believed she was the one.
In last week’s, in my opinion, half-baked and ill-judged interview
with Pulse Nigeria, Tiwa clearly admitted people had warned her against
Tee Billz.
Deep inside, behind the steely exterior, we are all girls fed on
fairy tales. While no grown woman would ever entertain the thought of
being misled by Cinderella or Rapunzel, there is a little girl in all of
us who secretly still believes in the presence of the knight in shining
armour as much as she does in the possibility of happy ever after.
While no longer damsels in distress awaiting rescue, we still hold on
to the mirage of being the one to change the “fine and troubled
prince”. If you for a minute shelf the Grimm Tales and turn to Hamlet,
you will find that literature warns of a watery end to such mighty
delusions. Even then, in as much as we refute Cinderella, we all revert
to Ophelia.
Tiwa is not the first, neither will she be the last. Look around you,
how many stories have you been told or personally witnessed of women
exploited, manipulated and abused by their men. And it is often women
who we always thought as strong, self-assured and confident.
In complete contrast to the knight in shining armour who swoop in to
rescue the damsel in distress there are predatory men in this world,
sadly, who are wolves in sheep’s clothing who scarper in to chip away,
tear apart and break down strong women. Flip the story of ‘the one’ who
will love, cherish and honour their woman, that one true love leading to
the happy ever after, those broken men women feel they are ‘one’ to
change, tame, save a broken man.
